I'm getting there!

Before I continue to getting closer to the beginning of my story........I did figure out a little something... a little something is about all I can figure out these days......OK,somehow, I got two blogs......I know I did it when signing on to something before I knew what I as doing ( I DO now!?) but I choose to look at it as I was "supposed to have two"....another note about myself to remember for later......so this one will be or my precious Sons,who have been my life for my whole life, literally, in hopes that after reading this,they will somehow understand why I did most everything I did in my life or while I was growing up,because I DID grow up as they did, I had them all by the time I was 21! I was alone,most of the time AND I was learning WITH them in so many ways........OK back to the future.........My Momma is coming home AGAIN.......much better I'm so happy to say! As I suspected, she was dehydrated. The EMT's reenforced this & so did the hospital. Although now that they've been told that the rehab center had made her thisway, the don't want to talk about it at ALL anymore! She had IV fluids for two days & she has really perked up. She can get from her bed to her chair by herself & that's sooo much better than when she first came home. I called the rehab center to tell thm that I wanted her records to see who was monitoring her fluid intake & to see if her incontinent brief was being changed every two hours like it was supposed to be since she had a horrific rash! I think I put the fear of God in them because all they wanted to keep saying was that her release was "pushed for". I did ask before I told them that there wasn't another option since their "wonderful facility" didn't offer taking Medicare or Medicaid er funds,which is what my parents had to offer them.BUT as I said, what did that have to do with the fact tha my Mom was fainting from dehydration in less then two hours after leaving! Yes, NOTHING,she said nothing! I hope that no one thinks I'm awful for prosuing this because, we've never in none of our lives sued anyone for anything even with all the bad treatment we've recieved over the years. This time my Mother almost dyed from not being cared for correctly & that is where I draw the line! Not even the fact that the billing dept. came into my mother's room & told her she couldn't leave without paying the $200.00 co-pay she owed them for being there! NOPE,I'll let that go for now! I told her to tell them she wanted to speak to Human Relations if she came in again! THEN she was to call me! I have a HORRIBLE hate for the phone,but when it comes to my parents, i can put it aside......I wish I was better at helping myself with it, but I'm not. I wonder if it has aything to do with th fact that for 30 years of my life,the phone meant that someone was looking for their husband who "wasn't there" or asking some stupid question while drinking.......I just don't know....Anyway, my ankles are so swollen I can hardly walk & my head is so clogged I can't breath without the aid of Vicks, yes, vicks, so I'm not going to Mom's today. I'm hoping this will be gone by tomorrow so I can go spend the day & do everything I wanted to do the last time she was home! I'm going going there.....I'm finally moving on................to My Story for My sons to finally know who their Mom is............

I'm still not at the beginning!

I actually wonder if I'll EVER get to the beginning........I think I need the practice while I lead up to it. I'm afraid I still don't know what I'm doing....but yet I'm still jumping in with both feet! Remember this fact about me when I do get to the beginning,it may explain a lot. I'm self teaching myself by reading as much about blogs & as many blogs as i can. This is how I educated myself from the time I was 15. It helped SOME, but the best thing it did was continue my love of reading that started at a young age with my "Mr. Poppers Penguins". I worried at first that I wouldn't get all the punctuation & spelling right, but hell nobody does. Even the "smart" people's blogs are loaded with mistakes on all of the above & nobody seems to care! It makes me wonder if he children of today will ever know how to put a sentence together, without help or spell anything but all the "shortcuts" that come with doing this thing called a blog! WHY do I even think about these things? I inherited it from my precious Momma......WHY did I have to get that from her when she has so many other wonderful qualities? That does bring me at least to today....not the beginning but today....my Momma, I'm lucky enough at my age (ha ha NOT talking out loud about it) to have both of my parents alive and close by. Momma is 84 & has suffered with R.A. for a lot of years. Along with the rest of her non-selfish,long worrying, totally devoted to her children life, she's dealt quietly with all the pain of that horrific disease. Two weeks ago, I got the call I so hate to get,that she had fallen in the bathroom & was knocked out cold. She actually fainted & fell. She's undoubtedly from the "old school" of NO one comes in the bathroom when she's in there.NO one,not her husband not anyone. I'm sure a lot of people know or have someone they love from "that" era. So it was a matter of when Dad had decided it was time to check on her that she was actually found on the floor. The next set of events isn't worth getting in to,or I just don't want to,the final outcome is that she cracked her already painful kneecap,but came thru it strongly like she aways does. She was taken to Wellington Hospital,because I was there & felt the care was better than most in our area. We must remember that FL. is a"country" of it's own ,not like any state in the rest of our country! We treat our elderly like CRAP here & the Dr's. are all the Dr's from all the other states that either lost their job, can't practice in any other state or just want to play golf everyday all year! Shall I tell you how I REALLY feel about them? With that being said, I felt I was treated as well as we here in Fl can expect in a hospital. OK, NOT the case with my Mom! The first day she was there, now mind you it was a Saturday & we just can't expect the staff to act like it's a weekday, Mom was taken for a test & when she returned to her room,she was just "plopped" in there. My Son entered to find her lying there,with NO buzzer for the nurse at her reach, her water jug empty,not just empty DRY & NOT at her reach & her lunch tray across the room stone cold! He went to the nurses station to "alert" them to this fact,after my Son her got her to drink some water from the bathroom sink, only to have them say that they were busy & of course "sorry". When a nurse came in the room, they looked at my son & said that he "taken care of it so why did they need them?"I assure you that this is nothing out of the norm & what we've come to expect here. SO when I arrived, I went directly to the nurses station with my mother's med list in hand, she'd been there since Friday evening without them even knowing what meds she took every day! I calmly went over the meds & told them that she's incontinent due to the fact her bladder had fallen (even after two surgery's to repair it) & would need to have incontinence briefs on every day. OK, sit down for what I was told next & please remember this floor was 90 % elderly people, "they do NOT have them on this floor"!!! I again,calmly asked if the Dr. could please order them for her. AGAIN I was told they do not have them! OK, so Dad will bring them in for her, OK?? Her reply, "can she change them herself" Um,NOOO, she has a cracked knee & can NOT even sit up yet! NOW I was losing it. I turned around to see the board to remember the nurses name I was speaking to & to regain my composure...... at which time I saw that each nurse was assigned to eight rooms of patients! This IS the height of our "season" & the hospitals are at capacity & then some (I've been in the hallway of a floor when had had surgery twice) & when I turned around I said to her, "I really do realize that you are busy, I would not ask you to give her any "special" care, just please make sure she has water & food!" I then told her that I also realized that she's "just" another 84 yr. old woman that you have to "tolerate" but she's MY MOTHER,who was the best mother a girl could have & I just want to be sure she's cared for while she's indeed in your care! I composed myself again & went on to request that they have the primary care Dr. to call her "bladder" Dr. to come in & take a look to see if the infection she's had for two months has anything to do with her fainting. The nurse then told me that she indeed knew Mom's Dr.& would do that for me. I walked away still thinking about this hospital not having incontinence briefs!! BUT it WAS a Saturday & maybe the "A Team" wasn't on duty! When is WAS Monday & Mom still had not even had her knee diagnosed yet,let alone SET! I talked to the "Monday nurse" who told that they did have "pads for patients who got their periods" I told her that the patients on her floor hadn't had their period in 50 yrs.!! Her look was that of disgust,so I changed it to thirty yrs. which didn't help her look at all. BUT Mom did get an "immobilizing" cast put on that day. I again asked for her "bladder Dr. " to be brought in & was told that she would be consoled as soon as possible. I also asked why she didn't have IV fluids & was told the Dr. didn't order them. OK, my mother fainted,she appeared to be dehydrated when she was in the ER, but NO IV fluids & NO record of how much fluids she was getting? NOPE! The next day Dad was told she would be going to a "rehab"for therapy on Wednesday.I asked if Dr. Bladder had been in & my answer was "not yet". OK, I'll be patient,after all they ARE "SO BUSY". Wednesday came & Mom was moved with no Bladder Dr. ever coming in. NOW I'm going to have to take a break before I continue to so I can check up on today's events. I think I've given us all enough to absorb for now.....right? It's enough for me to get riled up again that's for sure!

Do I have to start at the beginning...............

I just found out WHAT a blog is about a month ago. I'm finding out that although I lived the first half of my life (I decided to stick with the "half" thing) very fast,this part is where I 'm really lagging behind. I'm jumping in with both feet & just going to stick to what I originally wanted it to be.......a "page" where my Grandchildren can see how much I love them & have the memories of all the wonderful things we did together in one place to relive whenever they want to.........BUT along the way, I have some things to say to my own children too.....so pay attention...........because Meema says so......